My heart bleeds as I write this post and to be honest, I don’t even feel like writing at all. I don’t feel like doing anything much at the moment. I don’t want to anything but weep for the young girls and women in the world who are not safe and who’re not safe because of the men who are supposed to be our brothers, friends, family, and life partners. Why can’t we say No to rape? According to a survey by Positive Action for Treatment Access, over 31.4 percent of girls there said that their first sexual encounter had been rape or forced sex of some kind.
Farishina, a 12 year old girl was raped by eleven men in Jigawa state. Eleven men. Where do you go from there? Say no to rape!
16 year old Tina Ezekiel was waiting to write her senior school certificate examination when trigger happy policemen ended any chances of that happening. She died with all her hopes, dreams and aspirations for a better life.
Omozuwa was a 22 year old 100-level microbiology student and she had gone into the church, a place that should have been a safe place, to read. Was there any way she could have known that the worst thing that could ever happen to her was going to happen within those walls? They bashed her with a fire extinguisher for the love of God.
What happened to Humanity?
These are three names out of hundreds of thousand of girls who get violated by men they trust or don’t know at all. Where does it end? When does it stop? Why is being a female so dangerous? Why can the body I have been given not be subject to my consent?
Rape apologists are at it again.
‘Why did she go there if she wasn’t looking for something?’
Why was she out by that time?
‘Why was she dressed that way?’
‘She probably led him on’
‘How can a man rape a grown woman? Why didn’t she fight or scream?’
These people, some of them women, need to shut up. If you’ve been through it, you cannot possibly say this and since you have not and clearly have no empathy, then kindly take several seats somewhere outside the room!
This has to stop!
This has to stop. This entitlement by men of a woman’s body. This blatant and often life threatening disregard for a woman’s choices needs to come to an end now. Say no to rape!!!
Twitter and other social media platforms are filled with women coming out about their rape experiences and I am amazed at how strong these women are. The unfair stigma attached to the victim is about as traumatic as the act itself. Being hurt in that manner and being unable to speak about it is torture. Why do we have to go through this?
This thread has women talking about how they have to fabricate brothers, husbands and fathers because they are alone and afraid.
This thread has women sharing their rape experiences.
Truth is, rape didn’t just start now. People are just being more vocal about it. Just this week, more stories have emerged. Women are coming out and that in itself is progress. We shouldn’t have to feel ashamed for somebody else’s filth.
It was not your fault
If you’ve gone through this and you’re reading this, none of this is on you. It was not your fault. You were wronged and I am so very sorry.
Speaking out as we have over the past week served to shine a light on the atrocities that are committed on women every single day. Shining a light on something makes it hard for it to continue. I implore you to speak out long after this trend is gone. Speak out regardless of the threat. Speak out for your loved ones. Don’t force them to be silent after they’ve been violated. Please, do your part.
Keeping silent around rape apologists is not the answer. Call them out. When people make fun of the issue of rape, school them. You are not insignificant in this fight. Use your voice!!!
NGO’s are trying to help out. Please donate to these known and reputable ones if you have the capacity. They need funds to fight these monsters and help the victims.